He was only 50 something
Wow. Learnt something very interesting today. A colleague who I assume was pushing past 65 is actually only 54.
What does this have to do with anything? Well the guy is smart. Smart smart smart. Very analytical. Cares a great deal about asset management and doing things right. His passion is making sure crystal clear processes are in place, people are assigned clearly defined roles, and maintenance tasks are optimised to get the most out of an organisations assets. That all sounds great right?
This guy is morbidly obese. He looks terrible, and has days when he has to go home and rest. I am also aware of other 'serious' health issues he has.
He is an incredibly hard worker. Everything is fast tracked, accelerated, and needs to be pushed ahead to meet a deadline. I don't think he ever stops working. Even on holidays he is out at midnight in some back beach on top of a caravan trying to get internet signal to log in and do something. He'll also steam roll individuals to get a project back on course.
It all doesn't make sense does it?
He cares about asset management - but he has let his most important asset go, himself.
He has a drive to get things done - but the drive is reducing his time span.
He gets frustrated with people that aren't following him - who wants to follow someone who is clearly out of control?
He's a self confessed INTJ (Myers Briggs -> https://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/individual-differences/myers-briggs-8-introverted-personality-types)
He's a self confessed 'analyser' http://www.clickcolours.net/store/discovery-cards
He's lost himself, he's lost other people, and he's heading to the grave at a breakneck speed.
My heart aches for this guy. I want to tell him to slow down, to treat others more kindly, to treat himself more kindly.
There is a path where I could have ended up like this. The psych tests I performed when I was in my early twenties followed the introvert - analyser path. However I saw where those people ended up.
Balance. I knew I needed to balance myself out. Hence why I pushed myself into character development, social development and creativity. Each of us has a unique path - I'm just glad that I am now closer to an Extrovert and Carer, who can still function highly AND am healthy.
Numero Dos - Build awareness, who do you want to be?
Westy
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