4%

Apparently the females swipe right only 4% of the time (swipe right for purposes of this post means is interested).The males swipe right like 65 - 70% of the time. 

Guys go for looks. Girls go for status.

That is a crazy thought though. In a recent JP podcast I listened to one of the guests mentioned that his friend, apparently an attractive high ranking male, received like 20,000 matches on Tinder. 20,000! As JP pointed out - that is ghengis khan level. It is a Pareto distribution - the top top receive a f$%king shit load, and the majority receive very little.

What is going on though? Like what are these woman thinking? How is it healthy/in their interest to say only click on Ryan Renalds and Johnny Depps? The RR and JDs have huge numbers thrown at them, so they are probably going to devalue and likely wont be forming an intimate bond. Does being the 12th mistress of a JD really beat being the number one of some hard working electrician? Is it even good at all for RR and JD?

Perhaps the women are playing an old game - a small village game. They identify a high status male - throw themselves, get knocked up, and then culture generally pressures the man into entering a long term relationship. This game doesn’t exist anymore thanks to contraception and the changes leading to today’s more fragmented atheist culture. Do they even know that 19,999 are also clicking, and how does that make them feel? Trauma leads to delusion.

I wonder how they would react if they could see the results. I know people are people so can’t compare like this, but for purposes of thought experiment, say there is a JD with 20,000 clicks, and a 99% of a JD with only 4 clicks. If a average woman could see that, would they still click only on the 100%JD?

1 of 20,000 isn’t good odds, even for a very attractive woman. Where is all the emotional connection as well? I’m guessing the woman eventually burn out -they hit 30, start decline down their looks spectrum, and so settle for probably lower then what they could have gotten earlier when they were peaking. I’ve seen that happen.

It is all very odd.

How much does rank actually get you? It seems a heck of a lot. I know a woman who is partnered with a doctor. I don’t know the relationship well, but I’ve got a feeling that with some of this guy’s problems, well if he wasn’t a doctor she wouldn’t be there. 

So we should all go insane over rank? Claw and claw? Miss out on life? Go ultra competitive? Sacrifice for our attachments? Really? That seems kinda stupid.

I think today our organisation and connectedness and social media and whatever make some dominance heirachies more sticky. So ppl/men go nuts with the trying to climb then, for it is a rigged game. That ain’t healthy either. Mental health problems much…

I think the system is broken - and awareness is the key.