Learning Lessons

You know that feeling you get when you've been betrayed? Well, you feel like you've been betrayed, which is probably the same thing. That scrunch of the stomach. That minute taste of metal on the tongue. The feeling of fatigue because you are so pissed off that you can't find sleep.

That is called growth. That is a valuable lesson you have just learnt. This is the productive and optimistic view, which is the most effective.

Humans need to trust. Children who grow up in homes with untrustworthy parents become screwed up. Society needs to function with trust. When you approach a green light at the traffic signals you have trust that the other cross direction is red. You trust that the signals have been programmed properly. How would anyone get anywhere without there being trust?

Yet there are untrustworthy people. People who take advantage, are after the quick win. They don't care about the long term relationship. Tit for tat with forgiveness as the optimum game theory strategy is a foreign concept.

We're dealing with moist robots though. Moist robots who malfunction regularly. Moist robots which degrade with age and stress and addictions. Forgive them not for they do not know what they are doing.

People operate unconsciously most of the time as well. I acknowledge that I do, although I have been working at fostering more awareness.

Being betrayed sucks. Hung out too dry. Thrown under the bus. The solution? Time and forgiveness.

Forgive. Not forget. Forgive.

If you can forgive others, you can forgive yourself. So that is what is important.

Dust the sandals off and move on.

Find greener pastures.

Don't settle for the s.h.i.t. though.

Engineers tend to a) get bogged down in the detail and b) shy away from the human/interaction side of things. Thats where they fall easy prey to the lawyer types. The lawyers and business boffins who are happy to act as support services, create systems, and then push through all the risk onto the engineers. 

If you are in that situation - be aware.

But don't lose yourself in the fight. Once the fight is over - rest. Take care of yourself. Remember forgiveness.

Westy